See. Let. Go.


See. Let. Go.

I love this title.

I love how “See. Let. Go.” sounds like the title of the poem “She Let Go” in which a woman, without pre-meditation, pre-requisites, or permission, simply and with ease releases her disruptive (limiting) mind-chatter and returns to peace.

I love how “See. Let. Go.” is another way to say “consciously surrender,” which is something that comes up again and again in my writing. For me, unlike the woman in the poem, releasing my limiting thoughts, beliefs, and feelings is not as easy as opening my hand and releasing a balloon.  Letting go of what is keeping me from my peace and power requires constant, conscious practice and perseverance.

I also love how “See. Let. Go.” are simple and memorable instructions for change.

 “See” reminds me to stop, see, and study my mind-chatter so I can honestly assess what is helping me and what is hurting me. This is so important because I cannot release what I cannot see, and I would not be willing to release what I think is serving me.  The truth is what can set me free.

“Let” reminds me to allow, or accept, what is happening in this moment. When The Beatles sing “Let It Be,” they are saying – allow it to be, accept it, decide to not mess with it right now; you can always take action later, but for now, allow it to be.

To borrow a phrase from the song, “when I find myself in times of trouble” (and not a real, life-threatening, ‘I’ve come in contact with an actual saber-tooth-tiger’ kind of trouble but more of a ‘my daughter just said something that really made me angry’ kind of trouble), I generally find the best first course of action is inaction – to stay put with a closed mouth and accept whatever it is, be it my feelings, someone else’s words or behavior, or anything else outside my control. At least for now.

I don’t think it’s an accident that in the “Serenity Prayer,” acceptance comes before change. In the silence that comes with acceptance, I can better hear the wisdom of my “still small voice” and know what the next best step would be.

“Go” represents making a change by taking action, and when the action comes after acceptance and inner guidance, I can be more certain that I am taking what Dr. Joe Vitale calls “inspired action,” or advice for action that originates from my clear spirit instead of my muddy ego.

The Psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden once said “The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.”  May sight and acceptance be with you today and all days.